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September 07, 2004
A somewhat theological question...
Somewhat on the heavier side of things...here's my question. As Christians, are we entitled to be hurt by someone and get angry for the reason behind the hurt? Offer forgiveness, and have it be met with defensiveness, and be hurt again and be empty...no anger, just be left with hurt.
I realize it's possible, but I don't know the proper response. I know there has been a serious change in my life, because I sincerely felt bad about being angry, hence the forgiveness, but I never imagined feeling so hurt.
Sorry for being so evasive. I can't get into specifics, nor do any of you want to hear them, I'm sure. We all have our own things to deal with, but I was just venting in the open. Seeing if anyone had any thoughts.
Posted by karen at September 7, 2004 01:45 PM
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Yikes. This kind of stuff is so hard. The confrontation part is difficult and then to be met with defensiveness can make it even harder. Not knowing the situation, I don't know if my comment will make any sense...but sometimes I, being a sensitive person, have to think through whether someone hurt my feelings and it needs to be addressed, or if it's something I need to work through within myself. Obviously, if someone wronged you, that's a different story...but it's hard to know what to do with a situation where you feel hurt and want the other person to recognize that. I think response is the main part of our responsibility. I don't know the theological answer. I also think we are all different, and will all respond and react differently to situations.
Your feelings are your feelings, though. I don't think you should have to apologize for them. Just decide how to respond in light of them and make things right in the relationship.
I hope this isn't even more confusing.
Posted by: stacey at September 7, 2004 07:47 PM
Very heavy...
Good point Stace... It is all in our response, I'm seeing that more and more in life. But how right too, that we can't control our feelings, but alas feelings are often so deceptive.
Anger isn't even wrong as long as we aren't sinning in our anger, and yet hurt seems to linger so long...
I think I'm beyond making sense, just thinking some thoughts "out loud"...
Posted by: Heidi at September 8, 2004 08:03 PM